Parent Engagement Network presents:
Thriving During the Teenage Years
Can Teens Be Trusted?
As concerns rise regarding teen substance abuse, Internet activity, text messaging, etc., many parents out of fear are “clamping down” and policing their own children. Many “experts” are recommending parents periodically search rooms, monitor cell phone use, text messaging, computer use, and Internet sites visited.
1. Brainstorm With Your Teen
Long before summer break starts, ask about your teen’s goals and ideas for the summer. Make it their responsibility to investigate any costs or special
requirements for their summer plans. Provide them with a list of important dates they need to keep in mind e.g. family vacations, appointments, etc.
Pitfall: Abandoning your role as parent to become a friend
Some parents are too concerned about their child “liking” them. Children learn trust and
respect when you provide structure, guidance and accountability. If you are invested in
merely being their friend, you rob them of the opportunity to develop self esteem.
